Posts by Out At 22

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Mental health issues

by YellowLab in

how many of you have experienced or are experiencing any mental health related issues?

were/are any of these issues related to you being a jw?

do you feel many dubs still in "the truth" have mental health issues but are afraid to seek treatment from a "worldly" psychologist or psychiatrist?.

I am on meds for depression and anxiety. I was origionally put on them for help with the devastating news and continual life of infertility. But then my therapist got on the subject of me beign df'd and losing the family/world as I've always known it to be since I was born. The fear of more abandonment is terrible and we are working on that.

I haven't need meds due to being raised as a JW or beng in that religion but since I've been shunned and pushed out it has brought up other problems for me.

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Relationships......... Girls, have you ever lied to a guy........

by sandy in

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and tell them you are a virgin when you are really not?

or why do you think a girl would lie about it?.

Out At 22

Nope, I've never lied that I was a virgin. I might not have wanted to disclose how many partners that I'd had. My Bf now of 2+ yrs does know how many men I've been with and it doesn't phase him.

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Arguments

by iiz2cool in

suppose you and your significant other have a disagreement, dispute, arguement.

different people have different ways of resolving disputes.

what works best for you?.

Out At 22

We discuss the issue and never fight, I have raised my voice to my BF of 2+ yrs only once and I don't thing he's ever really raised his voice to me. We have disagreements at times but we always talk about it and when we both know that the issue won't be dropped and agreed on then I say that "I agree to disagree."

We are following my parents way of their relationship. They've been married 28 yrs and are still newlyweds! :) I 'never let the sun set in a provoked state' and that helps break my gumpy mode as when BF is leaving somewhere and I'm kinda trying to be mad at him for something stupid I tell him to give me a hug before he leaves! Then that breaks the mood and I have to laugh.

My BF and I have a wonderful relationship. We don't fight, argue, or yell, etc.

We're doing great (despite him having 4 kids!)

Jessica

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If your still-JW parent died...

by starfish422 in

would you attend the funeral/memorial service?

assuming that it would be held in a kh; or even if it wasn't.. this is something that's been on my mind lately; honestly, i'm not sure why.

my parents are both still relatively young; 60 and 61. my dad has been diagnosed with skin cancer but both are otherwise healthy.. i really don't know whether i would; particularly for my father.

Out At 22

OMG yes I'd go! I don't care where the service was held. They haven't totally shunned me and I couldn't imagine not being there. I'd be devastated of the loss no matter what.

I don't even want to think of that happening.

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Love and family

by Maverick in

today is my baby girls' 19th birthday.

her mother, an active dud, ran off with a workmate 6years ago so i have raised melia on my own since that time.

she has grown up to be a fine young lady who has been through finishing school, traveled to paris, and the south pacific, and is now a freshman in college.

Out At 22

Mav, you are NOT from another planet. LOL You are a wonderful father who has stood behind and raised your daughter. Great job!

I am Df'd. I was inactive from 22 till my Df'ing last Oct at 24 y/o. It has been very tough. Thankfully my parents haven't totally shunned me and are also getting thru the grief process. But it still angers me about the whole Df'ing in general. My older brother no longer speaks to me.

Thumbs up to you!!

Jessica

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Any step-parents here??

by Out At 22 in

hey everyone.

i was wondering if there are any fellow step-parents or soon-to-be step parents around?

i am a soon-to be stepmom to four girls (14,11,6,4).

Out At 22

Hi Deb,

Thanks for the advice! As far as BM goes, she totally chooses not to work. She can work if she wants too but thinks that unless she's paid $20/hr then she won't accept a job. She has no schooling beyond H.S (don't have a prob with that) but instead of getting ANY job to bring in some money she won't.

BF tried to get more custody but now it's been quite awhile I think he might just ask her as she'd hinted about us having them more. The cold hard truth is she wants the free time. She wants them only for the money as she stated that if she got this certain job that paid well then BF can get them more. Sad.

I live just south of the twin cities. About 1.5 hrs tops. :)

Jessica

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Any step-parents here??

by Out At 22 in

hey everyone.

i was wondering if there are any fellow step-parents or soon-to-be step parents around?

i am a soon-to be stepmom to four girls (14,11,6,4).

Out At 22

I have no problem with CS. BUT I do have a problem with my BF supporting the kids AND BM. BM has worked maybe 3 months out of the last 2 yrs. She CHOOSES to NOT work. She get's free daycare, BF and county pays all of it while my almost half of my BF's check goes out the door to pay for her to sit on her @ss all day. The money is spent on her and the girls come over with ratty clothes and all dirty. Their 'mother' routinely 'loses' them as she sits in her room and talks on the phone. We have documentation up the whazoo regarding her behavior and actions. Very sad.

If she was a decent mother and person I would not mind the CS....

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Any step-parents here??

by Out At 22 in

hey everyone.

i was wondering if there are any fellow step-parents or soon-to-be step parents around?

i am a soon-to be stepmom to four girls (14,11,6,4).

Out At 22

I have just recently started making myself get along with the BM (biomom) as it is too dangerous for my health to have so much anger and hatred for her. She is a 15 y/o in a 31 y/o's body. It's sad. She has chosen to not work....she has worked 3 months in the last 2 YEARS. Because my BF pays royally.....and her daycare is 100% paid by my BF and the County. She can't tell the girls no even if it's what she needs to do. She is a peer instead of a parent.

I would LOVE to have bio kids. But do to infertility issues and all my BF's money going out to BM we will have to wait at least 4+ yrs till we can try.....but we'll have to spend $15K to do that with no gaurentee.

I have to dash off to work.......talk later!

Jessica

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What Do You Do Besides JWD?

by pettygrudger in

jw
friends

with so many new ones, and not so new ones, its kinda hard to get to know people.

i'm just wondering, what do you like to do besides post on the jwd discussion board?.

me, during the spring - fall months like my yard & gardening.

Out At 22

I work 40+ hrs/wk in Cardiovascular Surgery/ICU. I am also going to school for my EMT right now and eventually Paramedic training.

I enjoy playing sports and watching football with my BF of 2+ yrs. We are also in martial arts so that takes some time too. My BF has four girls ages: 14,11,6,4 and they are with us full-time right now.

I enjoy working with my two horses and spending time outdoors. Camping, canoeing are also fav's of mine. Oh ya, and shooting my Glock 9mm. I am also thinking of getting into shooting competitively.

I guess that's a start!

Jessica

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Any step-parents here??

by Out At 22 in

hey everyone.

i was wondering if there are any fellow step-parents or soon-to-be step parents around?

i am a soon-to be stepmom to four girls (14,11,6,4).

Out At 22

I've been in the step-family situation for over 2 yrs now. It's going we all things considered. I know all about the responsibilty that's for sure. We have the girls full-time right now.

As far as his oldest being 14 and me being 25 doesn't phase me one bit. Age doesn't bother me. It would if it was a big difference but 9 yrs doesn't bug me. Everybody guesses him at middle/late 20's, not 34. Not surprised as he works out 5 days/wk and has a six pack. Lucky guy, erm luck ME!! We have alot in common and get along wonderfully.

I love him to pieces!!